AbOuT MeSomething To ponder on..
For sharing purposes... Taken from a book that I read recently..
LOVE OR INFATUATION.
To be infatuated is to be inspired with foolish or extravagant admiration of another person. Common?? Maybe to some they will only admit that it only happens during their teenage years. (I'm guilty of that too.. hehe) Well, from wat I have read (its up to you readers to believe it or not) Infatuation is a normal phase of human sexuality, especially around the time when our emotions of love & romance begin to flourish. It is perfectly fine to be infatuated so long as we recognise it and diffenentiate it from love.
LOVE OR INFATUATION.
To be infatuated is to be inspired with foolish or extravagant admiration of another person. Common?? Maybe to some they will only admit that it only happens during their teenage years. (I'm guilty of that too.. hehe) Well, from wat I have read (its up to you readers to believe it or not) Infatuation is a normal phase of human sexuality, especially around the time when our emotions of love & romance begin to flourish. It is perfectly fine to be infatuated so long as we recognise it and diffenentiate it from love.
While infatuation arouses many emotions and desires like "I need you", "I am the happiest person on earth when you are around" etc. Love is more than a mere emotion. Love is patient and kind, while infatuation is impatient and self centred (" I want... I wish... I need.." rather than "you") Love is a commitment to your partner, and your wish to fulfil his or her needs. A relationship based on mere emotions has roots that are too shallow to withstand the storms of life. Infatuation thrives on wishes while mature love requires a lot of hard work to build and to nuture it. Love develops from and appraisalof the total person - both strength and weaknesses. A person who seeks a stable love relationship will ask searching questions like " Would I want him or her to be the parent of my children; the kind of person whom I would be pround to introduce to my relatives and friends?" etc.
Infatuation thrives on a mental picture of the other person, a fantasy image which is largely based of idealisation, unsupported and unchecked by reality. The attractive points are exaggerated because this is desired; the weakness are too threatening because they cannot withstand the test of reality. The heart feels so much, too much indeed, that the mind cannot think clearly.
An infatuated person tends to have a false sense of security in his relationship and expresses it in possessiveness, jealousy or unreasonable demands for exclusive rights to time and space over the other person's activities in life. Love has a security based on mutual respect and trust, honesty and faithfulness.
Are any of the above true?? Are we all guilty of this??
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