AbOuT MeJEALOUSY
The hot topic that was tasked to me to blabber about which I had mentioned in my earlier entry... SO ... Bear with my rants....
JEALOUSY. A very thin line drawn between the good and bad. Between caring and being possesive. SELFISH
JEALOUSY. A very thin line drawn between the good and bad. Between caring and being possesive. SELFISH
This is my PESSIMISTIC point of view. Jealousy can be a terrible thing. The quickest and surest way to get dumped. It can tear a relationship apart as surely as anything else. If one is jealous, they rarely can step outside themselves to look at life from another's point of view. A jealous person can find it hard to have a "normal" conversation without their overactive imagination kicking out a scenario or two. About what? It is hard to say. Jealousy can make someone who is the biggest part of your life think that they mean nothing to you. True ?? False?? You decide.
Everything we do is either an act of love or a cry for help." I can only reduced it into two emotions: love and fear. It's been from our experience that what's underneath jealousy is fear of one kind or another. Jealousy is about real or imagined fears--fear of abandonment, fear of loss of love, fear of being dishonored in the relationship, fear of being shamed, unresolved issues from past relationships, lack issues, poor self esteem, lack of confidence, cover or mask for things from the past that you haven't healed yet, OR a desire for revenge that is misguided or misdirected towards someone else.
When jealous feelings come up, it's usually because we're afraid that we won't get our needs of one kind or another met. Guess its when jealousy comes up, somewhere within us, we are crying out for help or for the attention we seek. There are living examples around me where commitments between two people have actually been broken by one of them or … It shows up when one person or both people in the relationship are very insecure in their relationship or in life. Jealous feelings come up with a partner, or others, whose actions haven't warranted it.Whatever is going on--whether the jealousy is "warranted" or not--fear is at the bottom of those feelings and there's a lot more going on than what is on the surface.
Until we look at those fears and begin to heal them, no matter what relationship we're in, jealousy will creep in again and again.When asked about jealousy, people tend to talk about "withdrawing," "getting quiet," "becoming numb," "saying things they didn't mean" and "lashing out." When all these words or behaviours are actually ways to shield or protect themselves from the pain they are feeling inside.
SO what are then my optimistic view on jealousy? Truthfully, its very minimal. To let the person know that you actually care and showing your concern. That is all. But then again, to what extend, so that it does not lead back to my pessimistic view?
The bottom line is, its up to each and every individual on how they look at the meaning of jealousy because it is really vague. Its either you are drawn more to the optimistic side or vice versa. Thinking back, everything is interlinked. Dun you think so? Just give yourself sometime to reflect on this..
JEALOUSY->FEAR->INSECURITY->SINCERITY->TRUST->LOYALTY.
It goes round and round.....
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